by Bear » Mon Mar 26, 2012 11:15 pm
Hmm, that's kind of a tough one Tracer. Let's see.
1) Be bold. Be as confident as you can be, but don't be uptight. If you are timid, you won't be taken seriously or people will talk and walk over you.
2) Be easygoing. Try to maintain an approachable demeanor and encourage conversation. Reach out to people and get them to share things about themselves or their thoughts on the project. You don't want to be too serious either.
3) Sense your environment. Get a feel for energy levels, attitudes and group dynamics. This will help a lot for steering the general direction of the groups efforts. Being able to diffuse tension is a huge asset.
4) Check the ego. Even if you KNOW you are right, never assume you are or that it invalidates someones perspective or experience. It's okay to disagree and it's okay for people to be wrong.
5) Don't take it personally. Sometimes people will have unreasonable expectations of you or may be genuinely feeling let down. Be able to see those issues and act to resolve them as best you can; assure them you are giving your all. Learn to be able to take jokes thrown at you or criticism flung your way.
6) Keep your cool. If they bark at you, let them bark and learn not to reciprocate the anger; keep a level head and think of creative solutions to the source of the anger.
7) Wind down. Learn to wind down and start fresh every day / session / meeting. Check old baggage for the day at the end of each day. Find ways to relax and de-stress in your off time (watch a funny movie, take a bath, play a fun game, etc.)
Being a good leader is a lot like being a good host at a party. Make sure everyone is having a fun/good/pleasant time and that the conversation is lively and flowing.